Focusing On Emotional Growth In Adults

By Christopher Jackson

There are people who are extremely intelligent. However, this can refer to a person's intellectual well being. It does not particularly relate to their emotional intelligence. Emotional growth in adults is something that more psychologists are aware of and it goes a lot deeper than what you may be aware of. It can often relate to what you have experienced as a child.

For example, someone may be stuck in their life. It can happen after trauma. They may have been abused as a child. If they choose to block this out, they often just forget about it. However, one will always be stuck in this place, emotionally. A person like this will not be fully mature as someone who has grown up in a healthy environment. People are able to tell the difference.

A lot of people become stuck because they are still caught up in this web. They have not grown up in a happy, healthy environment. They were exposed to a lot of abuse. The result of this being, that they are anxious, fearful and on the edge. They are often not able to cope in an intimate relationship. An adult like this may seem as if they are still in the adolescent stage.

Some people are emotionally immature because of a traumatic experience, and talking about this can be helpful. It will be easier to cope with over time. It is more difficult for someone with a personality disorder. They need to learn about various mechanisms which can help them cope when they are feeling anxious and this makes them seem as if they are childish.

It is necessary to talk to someone when life is too overwhelming. This can be the result of someone who turns to something else to numb the pain. They may spend their nights out partying. This can be fine when you are still a student. However, when you are acting like this as a middle aged person, you need to look at what is really happening in your life.

Someone who has been neglected or abandoned will go through life unable to connect with their partner. They may feel as if they are unable to trust anyone because the hurt that they have been put through as a child. They may just not know how to connect with anyone because nobody has been intimate with them before. This can create a lot of fear in their lives.

To be able to connect with someone, one needs to process these emotions and this is how you are able to feel. It is important to talk about the underlying issues. When one doesn't confront these issues, you will keep on turning to alcohol and drugs or something else which will replace the obstacle that you are facing.

It does take baby steps, but over the time, the person will begin to change in a practical way as they talk about their emotions. This will obviously less frustration in their lives. At the end of the day, one wants to be content, and not to be having an anxiety attack with the most basic decision. When you take those steps, you will begin to feel a lot happier and joyful.

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